The expression of "Jumping through Hoops" is often used as an excuse for the use of drugs and alcohol to escape from some of the most intense emotional problems

People often drink or use to cope with their emotional problems including grief, anger, guilt, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

Drinking and using can serve a purpose to cope with life's problems and emotional upsets. There's a drawback, however; many problems arise from Heavy drinking and continual using. That kind of coping is not only impractical, it's counterproductive.

We all have two primary goals-survival and the avoidance of pain along with seeking happiness. And many of us want to find the shortest route to these goals, skipping some of the real work.

Jumping from project to project or from one form of dependence to another will not motivate you to find reasons for quitting. Changes in thinking and emotions are not enough. Commitment and follow-through are essential.

Work at problems and become involved in enjoyable activities in place of substance use activities. Don't be confused that you have control over drinking or using. You may not be able to just "give it up". It will take on a life of it's own if you are using it as an escape from the reality that is life and pain.

One thing is sure,
the PAIN of grief does become less intense if you use your sadness to accomplish something for the love you have received.
Jump into a new rhythm of life, find the purpose left to you after the pain!